On my morning walk, I was thinking of one friend in particular. She is a very busy mom to four young children and needs to trim down a few pounds. She's not nearly as 'gross' as she perceives herself to be. I had encouraged her to find one small thing to change and only focus on that. When it becomes second nature find something else easy to do and build that success layer upon layer. She is trying very hard and I am quite proud of her accomplishments. I encourage her every chance I get.
After my walk, I checked on some of my blog friends. I have a cyber friend that is working to make small improvements in her lifestyle as well. As I was leaving a comment on a blog congratulating her on her accomplishment, I realized I needed to take my own advice.
I have just had a major life adjustment in leaving the corporate world to working from home. It is the realization of a dream I've had for years. While it is all good and I'm thrilled to be fulfilling a life long dream, there are some major adjustments going on. I have been beating myself up over not being able to sustain my weight loss efforts at the same time.
For me, weight loss is a three legged stool. All three must be in place, and in balance for optimal weight loss. The three legs are:
- Healthy eating
I mistakenly thought that all three things would be easier once I was home and able to focus. I was wrong. Walking is much more deliberate now. Even though I can do it any time, I must make the time. It is easy to think I'll do that in a little while, but a little while never comes. If I'm not walking what is the use of skipping the brownie and then why drink all that water when Icees are just $0.99.
Get the picture, I have really been struggling lately and frustrated with the struggle because I did not anticipate it. I have been beating myself up and very much feeling like the fraud I mentioned earlier. I mean really, I am. I am giving out this very good advice and not taking it. I am not being encouraging to myself like I try to be for others. I'd never talk to a friend the way I talk to myself.
No more! I will not talk to myself in a way that is not encouraging. I will take baby steps just like I advise all of my friends IRL and in cyberworld. Beginning today the negative messages will be cut off. They will not be entertained.
Once I am good at recognizing and stopping those negative thoughts. I will replace them with a positive thought. Then I'll look at each leg of my stool to make sure it is strong. I'll start with water since it is the easiest. BUT, I'm not going to get ahead of myself now and try to do everything at once. Now is the time to stop the negative self talk. I am not a fraud. I am a human. I am doing the best that I can.