So, I threatened to stop counting calories if the weight doesn't start coming off yesterday and this morning I lost 0.4 lbs. This is at least the third time, maybe the fourth time, that I've threatened to find a new weight loss method because calorie counting wasn't working only to wake up in the morning and have a small loss. So now, I've decided that every day I'm going to post about how I am going to stop counting calories and do something else. That seems to lead to the loss better than anything I've tried in recent weeks. SHHH...don't say anything, I don't want the blog to find out, I'm on to it.
Actually, inside of me, I know this is the right way to eat. I don't feel deprived. I even at cake a little while ago. (More about that later.) Sparkpeople has made me more aware of all nutrients not just calories & carbs. I've focused on those things, and carbs in particular so long, that I've vilified certain foods. If ate something like white bread, I felt like I was cheating. I'm still not making white bread my first choice, but I know eating it isn't the horrible tragedy I once thought. I want this to work. Some tweaking is still in order. I almost never make my protein range, and have to be careful about going over with fat. I'm learning and that is always a good thing.
BTW, does anyone know if there is a way to look up foods in a certain category on sparkpeople. For instance, if I wanted a high protein food could I do a search and get a list? I plan my meals out for the day and enter them. I get the feed back and make whatever changes I need to, but sometimes I'll see that I need several more grams of protein and calories. If I could put in those search criteria someplace and get a food that matches those needs, I could just add it rather than guessing. Most of the time, I change the portion size to get things the way they need to be. Don't worry, though, I'm not getting all upset about getting all nutrients just so every day. If I'm close, I'm good. If there is an easier way, I'd like to know.
Now for the cake...every month we celebrate the birthdays of those in the office having a birthday that month. Generally, my practice has been to wish the celebrants a happy birthday and slip out. I really have developed a distaste for store bought bakery cakes. It hasn't been much of a hardship to pass up the cake. This month, however is my birthday and those with birthdays get the first slices. I had been prepared to graciously accept the cake, take a small nibble or two then need to go back to my desk to discreetly toss the vile matter. The precious lady that volunteered to bring the cake this time actually made a cake from scratch. She's good too! She even made two cakes, one with fruit in it and fat free topping. She did this especially for me!! It was a very, very considerate thing for her to do. I couldn't pass it up. So, I had a very small serving and added it to my calories for the day.
I really don't feel bad about it. It tasted good, and easily fit in to my calories (or so I think). I like the freedom calorie counting gives me to have a small piece of cake every now & then and still be on plan. That is how I want my life to be. I don't want to live the rest of my life without cake every once in a while.
If this doesn't work though, I'm quitting, I mean it!!
Lessons Learned
4 years ago
You are funny! If you want cake then eat it and count it. You will be more successful if you dont feel deprived (this coming from the girl who hasnt lost in two weeks...haha). Anyway, cake is one of those foods that scares. On WW they said a piece of cake is 10 pts-about 500 calories! So, I am careful about how much and what kind I do put in. I love cake. Same with chicken wings. 3 points for one little wing??? That is like 150 calories per wing! I havent used sparkpeople. I have been using calorie king if it is a food I have not prepared myself. I am sure it is the same thing.
ReplyDeleteIts funny that I havent done WW in years yet I remember the point values for almost everything! haha.
Jennifer
http://wecanlosethepounds.blogspot.com/
Thanks Jennifer. I never could do WW. You'd think all that counting would be just the ticket for me, but I hated it. It drove me nuts having to figure out all those points. That's besides the fact that I almost always gained weight doing it!
ReplyDelete"Let them eat cake!" Old Marie Antoinette got it right:) Seriously - how quickly are you going to blow it if you deny yourself every little single food 'treat' that comes your way or agonise over *bad* foods?
ReplyDeleteWe aren't saints, nor should we try to be. Being aware that you are eating better generally and getting portion size right sounds good to me! You are doing really well! Aren't you lucky to have a colleague who goes to the trouble to make a low-fat cake especially for you?
It sounds as though you have got the balance right. I am no weight-loss inspiration but I think that when we become over-obsessed with every little morsel then the warning bells should ring. Glad you enjoyed your cake :)
Lori, What? You're going to quit? Are you serious? Can't tell...Friend, don't ever quit!!! Now I'm serious. You have done a fantastic job and you look amazing. So what if you only lose .2, .4. or .6 ~ it's still a loss and it counts. Taking is slow is better anyway!!! You are learning things during this time that are going to help you for the rest of your life.
ReplyDeleteWould you rather lose it all right now and not go through this important part of the journey and maybe gain it all back? Or are you willing to wait, do the work and watch that "STUPID" scale go down.
Tough stuff ~ I know and I want you to tell me the same thing when I get where you are today. I mean it!!! Because I know I will be just like you. You've worked so hard and you want it now and you probably deserve it now. But there's something more that needs to be done.
Maybe you're going through this tough part to help someone else who's going through the same thing you are today. I know you're going to help me when I get there!!!
Sorry....I just would be so sad if you quit!!! You've inspired me and I need you to reach your goal!!
Much love and hugs!
Fat Grump,
ReplyDeleteI am very lucky to have such great co-workers. I'm getting over the perfectionism with regard to eating - I think.
Joy,
Thank you so much for being so concerned about me. I really appreciate the perspective you gave regarding the need for me to go through this time. That will give me a little hand hold to grasp when times are tough.
But, please understand, I am not quitting entirely, that was never my intention. I will quit counting calories with sparkpeople if things don't turn around soon. I can't continue to see my weight creep back up and lose all the hard work for the past 18 months.
Right now, I feel strongly that sparkpeople just isn't for me at this time. I've done it for almost three weeks and have gained 3 pounds. I'll lose a fraction of a pound only to gain it back. It will likely be a tool I will use when I get to my goal to maintain, but I need to lose a steady 1-2 lbs per week.
Thanks to all of you for your encouragement!
Lori