craigslist

I sell some really good junk every now and then on craigslist. It is a good way to declutter and get a little extra cash to put in my new wardrobe fund. Just the other day I sold something and as is typical, the buyer and I only knew each others first names. We agreed to meet in a public place, which is also typical. He told me that he'd be riding a black motorcycle. My usual description of myself has been 'fat & blonde' but this time, I didn't feel like that was an accurate description. I'm still blond, but I don't feel defined by my weight anymore.

Funny thing was, I really didn't know how to describe myself in a way that would be identifiable to someone that had never seen me. It was a little disconcerting. I finally told the man that I would be with my husband who had dark hair and a beard.

Later, I realized that the buyer had not really described himself physically either. He was average to small in body size and probably never thought to describe himself in that way. I could have easily told him what color clothes I'd be wearing or something else descriptive and identifiable. It struck me that since I've spent years telling myself and others that I'm the fat one, that I didn't know how any other identifiable traits. It is another one of those mindsets that will change with time, I'm sure.